在世界的每個生物都會有自己的情緒，情緒影響著每一個人。但是我們應該難道任由我們的情緒隨意而發？答案當然是否定的。我們需要像照顧身體一樣去照顧自己的情緒，愛護它呵護它，而不是放任它不管，下面小編就為大家帶來一篇關于情緒急救ted演講稿。

Every living thing in the world has its own emotions, which affect everyone. But should we allow our emotions to be free? The answer, of course, is negative. We need to take care of their own body as well as the body's emotions, care for it care of it, rather than letting it no matter, the following small series for you to bring a ted speech on emotional emergency.

我和我的雙胞胎哥哥一起長大， 他是個富有愛心的好兄弟。 要知道，作為雙胞胎，你很快 就在一件事上成為專家， 就是注意到偏愛。 如果他的餅干比我的大 哪怕一點點，我就會質疑。 當然我也沒被餓著。 （笑聲）

I grew up with my twin brother. He is a good and loving brother. To know, as twins, you soon become an expert in one thing, is to pay attention to the preference. If his cookie is a little bigger than mine, I'll question it. Of course, I'm not hungry. (laughter)

當我成為一個心理學家，我開始 注意到另一種不同的偏愛， 那就是我們賦予我們的身體 比精神更多的價值。 我花了九年時間 獲得心理學博士學位， 但不知道有多少人看了我的名片說， “哦，心理學家， 原來不是真正的醫生。” 就好像我的名片上就該明確說明似的。 （笑聲） 這種對身體多于精神的偏愛隨處可見。
我最近在朋友家， 他們五歲的小孩準備上床睡覺。 他站在小凳子上， 在水池邊刷牙， 然后他滑了一下， 摔倒的時候刮了他的腿。 他哭了一下， 隨后就爬起來了， 站回小凳子上，拿了一個創可貼 貼在他的傷口上。 這孩子剛學會系鞋帶兒， 但他都知道要保護傷口以免感染， 同時還要一天刷兩次牙來保護牙齒。 我們都知道怎樣保持身體的健康 還有怎樣保持牙齒衛生，對不對？ 我們從五歲起就知道這些東西了。 但是我們知道怎樣 保持精神上的健康嗎？ 完全不知道。 我們教給孩子們情緒保健嗎？ 完全沒有。 為什么我們花在牙齒的時間 比花在精神的時間上還多呢？ 為什么我們那么重視身體健康 遠遠多于心理健康呢？

When I became a psychologist, I began to notice a different kind of preference, that is, we give our body more value than the spirit. It took me nine years to get a Ph. D. in psychology, but I don't know how many people looked at my business card. "Oh, psychologist, it's not a real doctor." It's like I'm on my business card. (laughter) this kind of physical and mental preference can be seen everywhere.

I recently at a friend's house, their five year old child ready to go to bed. He stood on a small stool, brushing his teeth at the side of the pool, and then he slipped and fell down and scraped his leg. He cried out, and then climb up, stand back to the stool, took a put a bandage over his wound. The child has just learned to tie his shoes, but he knows to protect the wound to avoid infection, but also a day to brush two teeth to protect the teeth. We all know how to keep the body healthy and how to keep it healthy, right? We know these things from the age of five. But do we know how to keep mentally healthy? Completely don't know. Do we teach our children emotional health? Totally not. Why do we spend more time in our teeth than in the spirit of the time? Why do we pay so much attention to physical health than mental health?

我們承受心理上的傷害 比身體上的多得多， 例如失敗，被拒絕，孤獨。 如果我們忽視它們， 情況也會惡化， 它們同樣會給我們的生活 帶來重大的影響。 然而，雖然有科學證實的療法 來幫助我們治療 這些心理上的傷害， 我們卻不采取行動。 我們甚至都沒意識到 我們應該采取行動。 “哦，你感到抑郁么？ 別去想了，都在你腦袋里。” 你能想象對一個 骨折了的人說這樣的話嗎？ “哦，走走就好了，都在你腿上。” （笑聲） 我們應該消除這種對身體和 精神健康的區別對待。 應該把兩者對等起來， 像雙胞胎一樣。
說起雙胞胎， 我哥哥也是個心理醫生。 所以他也不是真正的醫生。 （笑聲） 我們不是在一起上的學。 事實上，我這輩子 經歷過的最困難的事 就是跨過大西洋搬到紐約 來讀心理學的博士學位。 那是我們倆第一次分隔兩地， 這個分離對我倆來說都很殘酷。 當他和家人朋友一起時， 我卻孤單的在一個新的國度。 我們都非常想念對方， 但那時候國際長途都很貴 我們一周只打的起五分鐘的電話。 當我們生日快到了的時候， 那是我們第一個 沒在一起過的生日。 我們決定奢侈一把， 在那個星期聊上十分鐘。 我那天早上在房間里踱來踱去， 等著我哥哥給我打過來 － 我等啊等啊，電話就是不響。 由于時差的關系，我就想， “好吧，他一定是和朋友在一起， 他晚點兒會打來的。” 那時候也沒有手機。 但他始終沒打來。 我開始意識到， 在我離開十個月以后， 他不再像我想他那樣想我了。 我知道他早上會打來， 但那一晚是我一生中 最傷心，最漫長的一晚。 第二天一早醒來， 我瞅了一眼電話，我意識到, 來回踱步時 我把電話線踹下來了 我迷迷糊糊的跳下床， 我剛把電話插回接口， 一秒鐘之后電話就響了。 是我哥哥，他可氣壞了。 （笑聲） 那也是他一生中 最傷心漫長的一夜。 當我跟他解釋事情的經過，他說， “我不明白。你看我沒給你打， 你為什么不打給我呢？” 他說的對。 我為什么不打給他呢？ 我當時無法解釋， 但我現在明白了， 非常簡單的原因：孤獨。We suffer more psychological harm than physical, such as failure, rejection, loneliness. If we ignore them, the situation will deteriorate, and they will also have a significant impact on our lives. However, while there are scientifically proven therapies to help us to treat these psychological injuries, we are not taking action. We don't even realize that we should take action. "Oh, do you feel depressed? Don't think, all in your head." Can you think of someone who has broken a bone? "Oh, it's all right, it's all on your lap."." (laughter) we should eliminate the distinction between physical and mental health. It should be equal, like twins.Speaking of twins, my brother is a psychological doctor. So he's not a real doctor. (laughter) we're not learning to go together. In fact, the most difficult thing I've ever had in my life is to cross the Atlantic and move to New York to read a Ph. D. in psychology. It was the first time that we had separated from the two, and the separation was cruel to both of us. When he was with his family and friends, I was alone in a new country. We all miss each other very much, but at that time the international long distance is very expensive we only play five minutes of the phone. When our birthday is coming, it is the first time that we have never been together. We decided to have a luxury, ten minutes a week. That morning I walked up and down the room, wait for my brother to call me and I waited, the phone is ringing. Because of the time difference, I thought, "well, he must be with his friends, he will be late." There was no cell phone at that time. But he never called. I began to realize that after I had been away for ten months, he wasn't thinking about me like I wanted him to. I knew he would call in the morning, but that night was the most sad and the longest night of my life. The second day early in the morning to wake up, I glanced at the phone, I realized that when I put the phone back and forth kick down the line I jump out of bed in a daze, I just put the phone back into the interface, and a second later the phone rang. Is my brother, he can be broken. (laughter) that's the most sad, long night of his life. When I explained to him, he said, "I don't understand. You see I didn't give you a fight, why don't you call me?" He's right. Why don't I call him? I couldn't explain it at the time, but I understand now, very simple reason: loneliness.

孤獨導致深重的心理創傷， 扭曲我們的感知能力， 剝奪我們的思考能力。 它使我們相信 身邊的人不再在乎我們。 它使我們不敢與人聯絡， 為什么給自取其辱被拒絕呢？ 你的心痛的還不夠多么？ 我那個時候被孤獨緊緊包裹著， 但我總和別人在一起， 我自己都沒意識到。 但孤獨是完全從主觀上定義的。 它完全取決于你是否覺得 在情緒上或是交際上 和你周圍的人相隔絕。 我當時是這樣的。 我們有很多關于孤獨的研究， 都很可怕。 孤獨不僅讓你覺得凄慘， 它還可能致死。 我可不是開玩笑。 長期的孤獨 會增加你早逝的可能性 高達14%之多。 孤獨可能導致 高血壓，高膽固醇。 它甚至會影響你的免疫系統， 使你容易患上各種疾病。 事實上，科學家已經得出結論， 長期的孤獨對你的健康和長壽 的負面影響比抽煙還要糟。 香煙的包裝上還有 “吸煙致命”的警句。 可孤獨沒有。 這就是我們為什么 要重視心理健康， 要注意保持情緒健康。 因為，你無法治愈心理上的創傷， 如果你都不知道 自己受到了傷害的話。 孤獨不是唯一 可能扭曲及誤導 我們的心理創傷。

Loneliness leads to profound psychological trauma, distortion of our perception, depriving us of our ability to think. It makes us believe that the people around us no longer care about us. It makes us afraid to contact with people, why to deserve to be rejected? Your heartache is not enough yet? I was wrapped up in a lonely time, but I was all alone. I didn't realize it. But loneliness is entirely subjective. It all depends on whether you feel emotionally or socially separated from the people around you. I was like this. We have a lot of research about loneliness, it's terrible. Loneliness is not only let you feel sad, it may be fatal. I'm not kidding. The long lonely will increase your chances of death up to as much as 14%. Loneliness can lead to high blood pressure, high cholesterol. It may even affect your immune system, making it easier for you to develop a variety of diseases. In fact, scientists have come to the conclusion that long-term loneliness is worse for your health and longevity than for smoking. Pack of cigarettes and smoking "deadly". Can be lonely without. This is why we should pay attention to mental health, we should pay attention to maintain emotional health. Because, you can not cure the trauma of the psychological, if you do not know if you have been hurt. Loneliness is not the only thing that can distort and mislead us.

失敗也有同樣效果。 我曾訪問過一個幼兒園， 在那兒我觀察了三個兒童, 在玩完全一樣的塑料玩具。 你得把一個紅色的鈕滑開， 然后一個可愛的小狗就會跳出來。 一個小女孩 對紫色的鈕又拉又按， 然后她就坐下來，瞧著那盒子， 下嘴唇開始發顫。 她旁邊的一個小男孩 看到這一幕， 再看著他的盒子， 都沒動手就哇哇大哭了。 與此同時， 另一個小女孩試了各種方法 直到她滑動了那個紅鈕， 可愛的小狗跳了出來， 她開心的叫了起來。 同樣的塑料玩具 給了這三個幼兒， 但他們對失敗的反應截然不同。 前兩個小孩完全 有能力滑動那個紅鈕。 唯一阻止他們成功的因素 就是他們被自己 做不成的想法給騙了。 成年人也經常中這樣的圈套。 事實上，我們都有 一個固定的思維感知模式， 每當我們感到沮喪，受到挫折， 我們便會進入這個模式。
你清不清楚你是怎么對應失敗的？ 你應該清楚。 因為如果你的頭腦告訴你 你不能做成什么事 而你相信了的話， 你就會像那前兩個小孩似的， 開始感到無助 然后你很快就放棄了， 甚至都不去試一下。 然后你就更加確信你成功不了。 你看，這就是為什么那么多人 都無法充分發揮他們的潛能。 因為不一定在什么地方， 有那么一次失敗 讓他們認定了自己不能成功。

Failure also has the same effect. I visited a kindergarten where I observed three children playing with the same plastic toys. You have to slide off a red button, and a lovely dog will jump out. A little girl on the purple button and pull in, and she sat down, looked at the box and the lower lip began to tremble. A little boy next to her to see this scene, then looked at his box, haven't started crying. At the same time, the other little girl tried all kinds of methods until she slid the red button, the lovely dog jumped out, she cried happily. The same plastic toys to the three children, but they are very different responses to failure. The first two children have the ability to slide the red button. The only thing that prevents them from being successful is that they have been fooled by the idea that they can't do it themselves. Adults are often in such a trap. In fact, we all have a fixed pattern of thinking, and when we feel depressed and frustrated, we are going to get into this mode.

You don't know how you did it. You should be clear. Because if your mind tells you that you can't do what you believe it, you will like the first two child, began to feel helpless and you will soon give up, don't even try. Then you'll be more certain that you won't succeed. You see, this is why so many people are unable to make full use of their potential. Because there is not necessarily in what place, there is a failure to make them that they can not be successful.

我們一旦被某件事說服， 往往就很難改變主意。 我十幾歲的時候，和我哥哥一起， 吃了點苦頭才明白這道理。 有一天晚上，我倆和朋友們 在一條很黑的路上開著車。 一輛警車把我們攔下了。 附近發生了搶劫， 警察在追蹤嫌犯。 警察走到車邊， 對司機晃了晃手電筒， 又照了照坐在副駕駛的我哥哥， 然后照到了我。 他瞪大了眼睛說得， “我在哪兒見過你？” （笑聲） 我說，“副駕駛座上。” （笑聲） 但對他來說， 我的回答莫名其妙。 所以他認為我嗑了藥。 （笑聲） 于是他把我拖出車子， 又搜了我的身， 他把我押到警車那兒， 直到他驗證了 我并沒有犯罪記錄， 我才有機會解釋 我和副駕駛座位上的是雙胞胎。 但是直到我們開走了， 你仍可以看到他的表情 他認定我一定干了什么壞事。Once we are persuaded by something, it is often difficult to change our mind. When I was a teenager, my brother and I together, eat a little bitterness to understand this truth. One night, the two of us and our friends were driving a car on a very dark road. A police car pulled us down. There was a robbery nearby, and the police were following the suspect. The police went to the side of the car, the driver shook the flashlight, and illuminate my brother sitting in the copilot, and then according to me. He said, with his eyes wide open, "where have I seen you?" (laughter) I said, "the vice driver's seat." (laughter) but for him, my answer is somehow. So he thought I took drugs. (laughter) so he pulled me out of the car, he found me, he put me in charge to the police there, until he proved to me and no criminal record, I have the opportunity to explain my and the passenger seat is twins. But as we drove off, you could still see his face, and he decided that I must have done something wrong.一旦我們認定了的事情， 我們很難改變看法。 所以當你失敗了， 感覺士氣低落是很自然的。 但是你不能允許自己 相信你不可能成功。 你要和那種無助的感覺斗爭。 你要重新控制局面。 而且你必須在 這種負能量循環開始前打破它。 我們的想法和感覺， 它們不是像我們想象的 那么忠誠的朋友。 它們更像是一個非常情緒化的朋友， 有時非常支持你， 而有時令人不愉快。 我以前的一個女同事 她結婚20年之后離婚了， 婚離的很慘烈， 然后她終于準備好 開始新的約會了。 她在網上認識了這個男的。 他看上去人很好，也很成功， 最重要的是， 他似乎對她非常感興趣。 她非常興奮， 還為約會買了新裙子， 然后他們約在紐約的 一個高級酒吧里喝一杯。 約會才進行了10分鐘， 那位男士站起來說， “我沒興趣了，” 然后就走了。 被拒絕是極其痛苦的。 這位女士非常受傷，以致于都動不了了。 于是她給一個朋友打電話。 她朋友是這樣說的： “那你還想怎樣？ 你又胖又沒有什么好聊的， 為什么任何一個英俊的成功男士 會和你這樣的失敗者約會呢？“ 太不像話了，是不是， 朋友怎么可以這樣冷酷無情？ 這或許聽上去不太過分， 要是我告訴你 這話不是朋友說的。 這其實是那位女士 對她自己說的。 我們都干過這事兒， 尤其是被拒絕之后。 我們開始去想 我們犯的錯，我們的缺點， 我們要是這樣就好了， 我們要是不那樣就好了， 我們給自己起外號。 也許程度不同， 但我們都干過這事。 我們為什么會這樣做。 我們的自尊已經被傷害了。 為什么我們要進一步傷害它呢？ 要是身體受傷了， 我們不會故意去把它弄的更糟。 你要是胳膊上有個傷口， 你不會說，“啊，我知道！ 我要拿刀看我到底能捅多深。

Once we are persuaded by something, it is often difficult to change our mind. When I was a teenager, my brother and I together, eat a little bitterness to understand this truth. One night, the two of us and our friends were driving a car on a very dark road. A police car pulled us down. There was a robbery nearby, and the police were following the suspect. The police went to the side of the car, the driver shook the flashlight, and illuminate my brother sitting in the copilot, and then according to me. He said, with his eyes wide open, "where have I seen you?" (laughter) I said, "the vice driver's seat." (laughter) but for him, my answer is somehow. So he thought I took drugs. (laughter) so he pulled me out of the car, he found me, he put me in charge to the police there, until he proved to me and no criminal record, I have the opportunity to explain my and the passenger seat is twins. But as we drove off, you could still see his face, and he decided that I must have done something wrong.

但是我們經常如此對待心理傷害。 為什么？由于糟糕的心理保健意識。 因為我們不重視心理健康。 很多研究表明， 如果你的自尊心低落， 你就更容易感到壓力和焦慮， 失敗和拒絕會傷害你更深， 你也需要更多的時間復原。 所以如果你被拒絕了， 首要的事情是應該 重新激活你的自尊心，而不是 去拳擊俱樂部打拳來發泄。 當你在經歷感情上痛苦， 像一個真正的好朋友那樣同情你自己。 我們需要改變 不健康的心理習慣。 最常見又最不健康的習慣之一 就是窮思竭慮。 就是事后反復咀嚼回味一件事。 比如你的老板沖你發脾氣了， 或是教授在課上讓你感到愚蠢， 或是你和好朋友吵架了， 然后你不斷的在腦海里 回放當時的情況，好幾天， 甚至好幾個禮拜都不停。 反復回味不愉快的事 很容易變成習慣， 而這個習慣代價很大。 因為當你在不愉快和 負面的事情上花這么多時間， 你把自己放在一個非常危險的境地， 可能誘發抑郁癥，酗酒，飲食失調， 甚至心血管疾病。

But we are often treated with psychological damage. Why? Due to poor mental health awareness. Because we do not pay attention to mental health. Many studies have indicated that if your self-esteem is low, you are more likely to feel stress and anxiety, failure and rejection will hurt you deeper, and you need more time to recover. So if you are rejected, the first thing is to re activate your self-esteem should, instead of going to a boxing club to vent. When you're experiencing emotional pain, like a real good friend, you have compassion for yourself. We need to change our mental habits. One of the most common and unhealthy habits is the idea of being poor. Is to chew the aftertaste of one thing after another. For example, your boss at your temper, or is a professor in class make you feel stupid, or you argue with your friend, then you keep in mind the playback of the situation at that time, several days or even several weeks without stop. It is easy to become a habit to repeat the unpleasant things over and over again, and the cost of this habit is very large. Because when you spend so much time on unpleasant and negative things, you put yourself in a very.問題在于那種反復回味的需要 會變得非常強烈，非常緊迫， 所以這種習慣會很難打破。 我知道事實如此， 因為就在一年多以前， 我自己就經歷了這個習慣。 我的雙胞胎哥哥 被確診為三期非霍奇金淋巴瘤。 他的癌癥來勢洶洶。 全身都有看得到的腫瘤。 他要做一輪大劑量的化療。 我情不自禁去想 他所經歷的這一切。 情不自禁去想 他受的這些罪， 盡管他從沒抱怨過， 一次都沒有。 他有著這種不可思議的積極態度。 他的心理健康程度太了不起了。 我身體上很健康， 但心理上我那時是一團糟。 但我知道該怎樣做。 研究表明， 哪怕只是分心短短兩分鐘 都足以打破那一刻 你窮思竭慮的需求。 所以每次當我擔心， 煩惱，或帶有負面情緒時， 我就強迫自己專注于其他的事情， 直到那種感覺過去。 僅僅一周時間， 我的視角就全變了 變得更積極，更充滿希望。 做了化療九周之后， 我哥哥做了電腦斷層掃描， 出結果的時候， 我就在他身邊。 所有的腫瘤都消失了。 他還得再做三輪化療， 但是我們知道他能恢復。 這張照片是兩周前照的。he problem is that the need to repeat the aftertaste will become very strong, very urgent, so this habit will be difficult to break. I know the truth, because in a year and more, I have experienced this habit. My twin brother was diagnosed with stage three non Hodgkin's lymphoma. His menacing cancer. The tumor was seen all over the body. He's going to have a big dose of chemotherapy. I can't help but think of all the things he's going through. He could not help but think of his sin, even though he never complained, not once. He has such an incredible positive attitude. His mental health is too great. I was physically fit, but mentally I was a mess. But I know what to do. Research shows that even if it's just a distraction, just two minutes is enough to break the moment you're thinking about the needs of the poor. So every time when I'm worried, upset, or a negative emotion, I force myself to focus on other things, until the feeling of the past is over. Just a week, my perspective has become more positive and more hopeful. After nine weeks of chemotherapy, my brother did a computerized tomography scan, and I was on his side. All the tumors were gone. He has to do another round of chemotherapy, but we know he can recover. This photo was taken two weeks ago.當你在孤獨的時候采取行動， 當你改變對待失敗的反應， 當你保護自己的自尊心， 當你與負面的想法做斗爭， 你不僅可以治愈心理上的創傷， 你會建立起情緒恢復能力， 你會變得更強。 一百年以前， 人們開始注重個人衛生， 人的壽命延長了50%還多 這僅用了十年就實現了。 我相信，我們的生活質量 也會有同樣程度的提高 如果我們開始 關注情緒上的保健。能想象一下么， 這個世界會是什么樣子 如果每個人都在心理上更健康 如果世上少一些孤獨和抑郁 如果人們了解 如何走出失敗的陰影 如果人們更自信，充滿力量。 如果人們更幸福，更滿足。 我能，因為那是一個 我想置身其中的世界， 也是我哥哥想置身其中的世界。 只要你了解這些知識， 并改變一些簡單的習慣， 那將是一個 我們都能置身其中的世界。When you take action when you are alone, when you change your reaction to failure, when you protect your self-esteem, when you struggle with negative thoughts, you can not only heal the psychological trauma, you will build emotional recovery ability, you will become stronger. One hundred years ago, people began to pay attention to personal hygiene, the life expectancy of the people has been extended by more than 50% this is only used for ten years to achieve the. I believe that the quality of our life can be improved to the same degree if we start to focus on the emotional health.You can imagine what the world would be like this, if everyone is more psychologically healthy if there were less loneliness and depression if people know how to get out of the shadow of failure if people are confident, full of strength. If people are happier, more satisfied. I can, because it is a world that I want to be in, and my brother wants to be in the world. As long as you get to know the knowledge, and change some simple habits, it will be a world where we all can be.